BOOK REVIEWS for ‘HEALING STORIES FOR CHALLENGING BEHAVIOUR’

 

http://www.waldorfbooks.com Susan Perrow has developed the art of pedagogical stories to a luminescent degree. In her beautiful book she offers dozens of stories, some her own, some traditional and retold by her. Each story carries with it the seed of healing for just about any childhood problem, from unruly behavior to deep grieving. Her voice is one of warmth and caring, her stories are richly engaging to young and old alike. Having her book at hand is like having a medicine chest filled with homeopathic remedies for all conditions - and, like homeopathy, Susan's stories are guaranteed to produce no unwanted side effects. Healing Stories includes chapters on creating stories and on the art of storytelling, as well as stories selected for their ability to heal.This is a resource that is so vast in its usefulness that we predict it will become one of the most sought after parent/teacher resources ever printed.

 

 

http://www.amazon.com Thirsty for more! - Since reading this book, I have gone from being a story-time reader to story teller. I have used Susan Perrow's stories with my son, family, friends, and in the classroom. Her book has been instrumental in helping me to understand the power of storytelling and the benefits. The stories are very satisfying to the listener and when the children see me again, they ask for another story. On my end, storytelling does not come naturally. The tips on successful story telling and how to create your own stories have been especially useful. (Sunflower Garden)

 

BOOK REVIEWS FOR 'THERAPEUTIC STORYTELLING: 101 HEALING STORIES FOR CHILDREN'

      The art of storytelling is on the increase today, nourished by such people as Susan Perrow and Nancy Mellon who have encouraged so many to find the storyteller that is in us all. But there are so many attacks on artistic endeavours by today’s electronic consumer society. Why should parents, carers and teachers tell stories when there are so many DVD’s, CD’s and on-line materials available? Reading this book will help to answer that question. Storytelling is still important.

        Sometimes it can seem to those of us who work with children that what we would like to bring is becoming more difficult – the powers of imitation and for self-initiated play are dimming, simple equipment and activities can appear to be less appealing to sophisticated modern children and young people, but storytelling and the acknowledgement of the power of storytelling is having a resurgence, for adults as well as for children. Books such as this one make it clear how this art can provide a positive approach to the challenges that cluster around the development of children and young people today.

        This book from an author that many have already come to admire for her previous Healing Stories for Challenging Behaviour, goes straight to the heart of the matter and provides both a section on story making and a rich resource of stories for children of a variety of ages, in many situations. There are several very useful lists in the book to help an anxious parent, carer or teacher quickly find what is needed. As Perrow writes:

                  Therapeutic storytelling is a gentle, easy yet often very effective means of addressing         

                  difficult topics with children. The story form offers a healing medium that allows children 

                  to embark on an imaginative journey, rather than being lectured or directly addressed 

                  about their behaviour. By identifying with the main character or characters, the child is 

                  empowered as obstacles are overcome and a resolution achieved.

        There are stories and outlines here for situations from the intimate to the global, from bed-wetting to earthquakes. The suggestion of healing stories for great disasters like tsunamis, earthquakes and wars is a new step for Perrow, but a very relevant one to bring to our attention. She is also now able to suggest stories for sensitive issues such as sexual abuse and premature sexual activity, through her work in so many places in the world where healing is badly needed.

Many of the stories in this book, due to the places where Perrow has been most active, are set against African or Asian or Australian backgrounds – but this does not make the book any less relevant for use in other places in the world. There is plenty of encouragement for the individual storyteller to adapt and alter to suit individual circumstances. On the other hand, there are so many global connections all around us now, in just about every kindergarten, children’s centre and neighbourhood, that stories from other cultures and places are a help to extend beyond the simple ‘house and garden’ stories that provide the starting point for the very first story adventures for very small children.

        Most of the stories in the book are short and simple, even those addressed to the older age range (up to 10 years old). As Perrow writes: ‘Never under-estimate the power of simplicity’. She gives us the basic story model of the therapeutic story as follows:

Firstly identify the unbalanced situation or behaviour

Find a metaphor which will appeal to those the story is aimed at, and which will inspire a healing story, not a cautionary tale

Then take the main character on a journey, very short and simple for the youngest children, and introducing more tension and complexity for older audiences.

Finally, it is vital to resolve this tension with a happy and satisfactory resolution.

        There  is plenty in the first section of the book about story-writing, though this is only two chapters long, and the remaining sixteen are devoted to the stories, including some poems, games and story outlines. There is a storyteller and story-maker in us all. It is part of our everyday communication when we come back from any outing and tell our family what we have been doing, when we share experiences from our lives with friends, and when we search for the words to share new ideas with colleagues. Perhaps storytelling was accidently given a bad name for us as children. Someone might have said to us, ’Don’t tell stories!’But really we are not able to live in community with others unless we communicate, and, though we want to avoid encouraging the ‘fibs’, ‘tall tales’ or ‘lies’ implied or in the admonition, anything beyond our most basic communication is a story of sorts. As soon as we tell even the tiniest story, we begin to share our soul in a uniquely human way.

This book also takes time to look at some of the dangers for the story-writer. There is a warning about creating the moralising story rather than working in a lively way with moral themes.

We are also warned that the desired enduring changes that we hope for may not come quickly and may well require some transformation work on our own attitudes.

         Scaring children is also, of course, not the way to heal, as Perrow writes, in bold type:

               A story is definitely not appropriate if it is likely to scare the child. Stories should help make  

               our children strong, and give them courage and understanding to face the future, but not to

               frighten them!

        There is an interesting section that would benefit from further discussion amongst storywriters and storytellers, on whether it is manipulative to attempt to change children’s behaviour through a story. After all, the power of stories could be used unethically, for example, to spread a negative attitude and consequent behaviour. Rabble-rousers use stories. Fortunately, Perrow has a very apt, though mild example from one of her workshop participants, to bring out for us the difference between seeking to heal an imbalance, and pursuing a more selfish aim.

        There is also a section in this book on how to change inappropriate stories that children may have been given. Changing a fairytale is definitely not to be recommended, despite the Disney-fuelled wish for real evil and its consequences to be downplayed, but Perrow’s account of the new positive ending for the frightening movie story that a child was left with is again very aptly chosen and most helpful. As a storyteller, her way of writing is lively and enthusing.

        Therapeutic Storytelling is about the power of words, not as intellectual tools to build abstract concepts, but as the source of living and flexible pictures that our responsive imaginations create. It offers stories for everywhere and for all ages. It gives clear ideas and encouragement for story writing and information about how to use stories in a playful and lively way, in everyday family life as well as in very difficult circumstances.

        I hope that Therapeutic Storytelling will find its way into many homes and centres where children are cared for and I don’t doubt that it will become a well-thumbed volume.

                                                                                                                                                         Jill Tina Taplin

                                                                                                                                       (first published in 'New View' July 12)

Therapeutic Storytelling - a review by Nancy Blanning

Children love stories. The nature stories and fairy tales we share in our early childhood classes provide a daily soul nourishment. There are also the “pedagogical” stories we create spontaneously to picture to the children a more healthy behaviour when something is out of kilter in the moment. In this new book, Therapeutic Storytelling, Susan Perrow takes us a step further to introduce therapeutic stories. Susan is described as a “story doctor.” She has done her work as story teller, early childhood educator, and teacher trainer in Australia, New Zealand, the British Isles, South Africa, Kenya, Eastern Europe, Asia, and China. In her story telling workshops with educators, therapists, and parents, she has shared many stories and the tools each individual needs to create stories for our own children. She gave the introduction to this type of story in her first book, Healing Stories for Difficult Behaviours. Now this volume expands with examples of 101 stories that have arisen out of her own creative work and within workshops she has guided in different countries.

 

But first, what distinguishes a therapeutic story from others? To quote from the book: “All stories are potentially healing or therapeutic. If a story makes people laugh or cry—or both!—the laughter and tears can be healing. Folk- and fairy-tales, through their universal themes and resolutions, have healing possibilities. They can offer hope and courage for facing the trials of life, affirming our capacity to change and develop.” She goes on further to say that therapeutic stories are specific stories to help or heal behaviour in a specific situation when wholeness has been lost. These are stories that “return balance…to a behaviour or situation that is out of balance.” Her description of this resonates with our own experience of the power of stories as a way to address difficult topics and situations through the vehicle of “an imaginative journey” that guides toward resolution. The story can be a way to encourage a new behaviour by picturing through the story how to do it without lecturing or moralizing. The child’s dignity is protected while his or her higher being is invited forward through the story imagination.

Each story will have three essential elements—metaphor, journey, and resolution. Metaphor is the imaginative picture. Journey is the series of events leading to a conclusion. And resolution is when balance is restored. One problem situation described in the book was of a 3-year old child who bit others. The main story character chosen was a baby hippo who greeted everyone with a bite. But no friends stayed; the zebra, giraffe, and baboon all ran away. But when the baby hippo tried to bite tortoise, his shell was hard and hurt her teeth. He did not run away but invited her to eat good, sweet grass instead. Once she learned to enjoy eating grass, “When her friends would come to play/ The friends would stay and play all day!” The book further discusses the “mystery and magic of metaphor” as it “speaks directly to the imagination, building its connections through feeling rather than theory or abstract thinking.” Further suggestions are given as to how to create our own stories and get our story juices flowing, of different ways of constructing the journey, of what kind of resolution is healthy and proper.

These considerations also raise the question of ethics and freedom. We need to make sure that the story is given to restore something within the child’s situation that is out of balance and needs healing and is not something which we wish to encourage or even manipulate to satisfy our own adult convenience and desire. We also need to ask whether the story will encourage core values of true human morality and uprightness. If the answer to this is “yes,” then the story will guide development in a positive direction for all concerned. Susan Perrow points out that these stories do “not involve making ‘bad’ behaviour ‘good’ or making ‘naughty’ children into ‘good’ ones. Instead it is about trying to recreate wholeness or balance in the child’s own experience…The story should definitely not have the aim of moralizing or inducing guilt—this cannot be stressed enough!...A healing tale should, as much as possible, leave the listener free to come to her or his own conclusion.”

The first 50 pages of the book give the story telling “tutorial.” The remaining 200 pages are stories, stories, and more stories. The list of categories is exhaustive and runs the gamut from hitting/biting, anxiety/fearfulness, bullying/exclusion, social conflicts of all kinds, divorce, resilience, sexual abuse, bad language, to discrimination, and more. Some of the stories may be just what a teacher has been looking for to address a situation. Others may seem too direct, others too subtle to address the topic. Susan emphasizes that it is also important to understand that the children’s behaviour is contextual and relational. A story in this book may not be “the” answer but can give us inspiration and spark the imagination of what will speak to the children in our care.

While reading Therapeutic Storytelling, I began to flag individual stories to mention in this review. When 15 stories had already been tagged and only half of the book read, the tagging stopped. There are too many inviting stories to mention. This collection invites individual exploration to find the treasures you may be looking for.

Thanks to Susan Perrow and the students from her workshops who have generously shared their stories to benefit the children of the world and the parents and teachers who care for them.

Therapeutic Storytelling is published by Hawthorn Press.

 

BOOK REVIEW for ‘AN A - Z COLLECTION OF BEHAVIOUR TALES’

This review was written in November 2017 by Imelda Almqvist, an author and teacher, for Pagan Pages. Many thanks to Imelda for her wonderful review, and Pagan Pages for hosting it.

 

This charming and beautifully illustrated book essentially offers something called “story medicine” as a creative strategy for parenting, teaching and even counselling.

The key concept of story medicine or healing stories is that the right story, told at the right time, can unlock something within a child and eventually bring about desired (or much needed) change.

One example would be of a child deliberately annoying other children and destroying the peace in the classroom for the whole group. The teacher might then read the story about Obnoxious Octopus so the whole class is presented with a template for solving the problem and behaving or responding differently. The child concerned might now receive positive attention (without having to act annoying to get it) and the other children are inspired to try different ways of behaving around this particular child. When everyone is receptive – the dynamic might just shift!

The teacher in me whispers that some stories may well need to be told repeatedly – say every day for a week (or weekly for several months) – but presented in the right way, an improvement may occur given time, given patience and a positive (constructive) attitude.

These stories are written for an audience aged 3 – 9 years – but of course they could be used too with another audience (say adults in a teamwork seminar) or adapted for older children.

And of course we can do more than just telling: we can create our own picture books, act the stories out with puppets, dolls or teddy bears. We can use them as a starting point for writing and telling our own tales.

When my own children were much younger (they are all teenagers now) I remember how I could really get their attention by inserting their names in to stories and adding extra (personal) details that were not in the original story. A portal opened where they were not only listening – they became participants. And often that would come out in their play later. While cooking their dinner I would overhear their teddy bears quoting lines from the story and running wild with the storyline (and many new storylines exploded onto the scene!)

A related idea that became very popular in the primary school my own children attended was of making Story Sackis. They would contain book plus toys and props to actually act out the whole story. This is any idea that would work well with this book too. Parents or teachers might get a stuffed octopus (to stay with that example) as well as some toy fishes and involve a group of children in enacting the whole story – first what went wrong and then a much better outcome where everyone is having fun.

https://literacytrust.org.uk/resources/how-make-and-use-story-sack/

As a teacher and mother both I think this book is lovely and based on sound therapeutic and healing principles. The author has really done her research and found positive inspiration in situations where children struggled or something negative occurred. To look within yourself for an innovative way to proceed (as a teacher) is an attitude that can help transform real life situations.

On the back cover she is quoted as saying that the stories may not be “magical pills” but they can be a wonderful alternative to nagging or lecturing. Now any parent, teacher or counselor is going to appreciate that!